How we love a great kiss – it is sex’s great hors d’oeuvre! There is more to this mouth-to-mouth intimacy than what we may realise.
Researchers are revealing hidden complexities behind the simple act of kissing, which relays powerful messages to your brain, body and partner. A kiss triggers a cascade of neural messages and chemicals that transmit tactile sensations, sexual excitement, feelings of closeness, motivation and even euphoria.
It is believed that kissing evolved from a mothers practice of chewing food for their young and then feeding them mouth-to-mouth. Some scientists theorize that kissing is crucial to the evolutionary process of mate selection.
It has been said that women can tell if a relationship is going to work after the first kiss because after the first night of kissing, they just get a feeling, an intuition. “Kissing is passion and romance and is what keeps people together,” says Michael Cane, author of The Art of Kissing.
Kissing can also be a ‘sensual’ meditation, especially as it quietens the mind and leads you into pleasurable sensations throughout the body. And while kissing may be nature’s way of opening the door to a sexual experience, it also has all that lusciousness that we need to pull us out of the mundane and the ordinary and take us into the moment of the extraordinary.
This is spurred on by the brain releasing chemicals and hormones such as oxytocins, pheromones, all of which are stirring up sexual desire, and because there are a huge amount of receptors devoted to picking sensations from the lips.
Kissing is part of bonding, it is also part of foreplay, and that rush you can feel is probably from two natural stimulants — dopamine and norepinephrine. It is interesting to note sex drive and lust are triggered by testosterone, in both men and women. Dopamine and norepinephrine kick in when romance begins. Oxytocin is a factor in at the attachment phase, bringing the sense of calm and peace you find with “the one.”
Interestingly, we know that massaging someone produces increased levels of oxytocin, which is a calming hormone. So there’s every reason to think kissing is extremely calming, if you know the person well, after all we all know how kisses will calm a child, yet it can also be extremely stimulating especially if you are in love with somebody.
So the kiss, being kissed and feeling kissable is perfectly wonderful. It creates incredible intimacy. It boosts self-esteem. There is no doubt about it, it is wonderful to be kissed by somebody.